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molestation....hopefully admitting the past will be therapeutic.?
This is the first time I have ever admitted to anyone about my past , but It has been bothering me lately.so here It goes...I was molested by my cousin when I was little , he doesnt think I remember but I do. Then there was my neighbor guy who kept rubbing against me during a game of hide and go seek . then the man who would give free motorcycle rides to the kids in the neighborhood... he reached behind me and squeezed my private part. I have kept this inside for a long time and now that I am grown , it is haunting me. Cause I now have children. these incidents are stuck in my brain and wont go away. I just needed to let this out !!! these may not be as bad as some other peoples experiences but these are mine and my body was violated. My mother was molested when she was little and she said that that is why she kept a close eye on us. but i never told her that she failed at that. it was not her fault and i dont want to burrden her with this....should I tell her?
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- only of you think it Will calm the tide that tosses in your mind, the world can be cruel and your mom can be more understanding then you think...god bless, take care
- I don't think telling your mother would do any good. I think speaking to a counselor would do a world of good.
- I would talk to her and say what you did here, its not her fault...Because this has happened to her she may help you in dealing with this....
- I am sorry to hear about what has happen. It is best to talk about it with someone. The first thing that you should do is talk with your kids about people touching them incorrectly. Let them know that it is wrong and that they should tell you if anyone attempts anything. You need to make sure that this does not happen for a third generation. As for yourself, check in your area for support groups at your church, or through hot-lines with the local mental health group. There are many online groups that talk about such issues. This way you do not have to give your name or other personal information. Good luck and hang tough, you have taken the first step to making things better. It is never too late.
- I would talk to her, she's been there, she'll understand. That's what you need right now. You don't mention how old your kids are, but I would make sure they know that it is never ok for someone to touch them unless they want them too(You don't want to create problems for them later in life, afraid of intamacy0 and that they can always come to you. Again I don't know their ages, but as hard as it may be, maybe you should tell them what you went through, so they understand that it happens and it's ok to tell someone if it does. This way (god forbid) it happens to your kids they will fell c omfortable to come to you. (I rather know than not know) don't blame your mom. I'm sure if she knew, she would have done something, but i bet she had an idea because of your actions at the time. Make sure your kids know that's it's fine to come to you, and make sure mom knows that you don't blame her for anything. It may not be ideal circumstances but i['m sure it will bring your family closer. Good luck
- Yes tell her ... talk to your kids about it as well , let them to tell you anything that its okay , you are here for them.
- Your mom couldn't be with you 24/7 so she really didn't fail I think expressing your thoughts is a good step, and maybe talking to your mom in an sharing of those times but you can't blame your mom she did the best she could. Good Luck
- Wow, finally someone else who has been through the same things as me. I was molested by an older male cousin too. I have told nobody except for my husband, my ex, and an old friend of mine. My mom has no idea that this ever happened. My mom was also molested as a child, and was raped as an adult. She has never really told anyone about that, except for me. My husband thinks I should tell my mom what happened. I'm 27 now, this happened 22 years ago, but I just can't talk to my family about it. I know it was not my fault, but I cannot tear apart my family. The thing that scares me most is that cousin now has a child as well as a niece & nephew. Fortunately, he is never alone with any of these kids. If I ever suspect anything, then I will have to say something. If you can come up with the courage to tell your mom, then you should tell her. I hope that one day I will be able to tell my mom what happened to me.
